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Do you have Assertiveness Skills? Understand what assertiveness is and how it is

on May 16, 2012

Assertiveness Skills: 


  • Understand what assertiveness is and how different from others responses to difficult situations.
  • Look at someways of behaving assertively in your own life.

Key things to remember:

  • Assertiveness describes behavior-we can all learn new behavior, we can all change.
  • It is important to remember that changing behavior patterns that we have lived with for years can be exiting and sometimes scary, too!
  • It,s important to acknowledge that other peopl will feel that effects of our changes- they may feel scared!
  • It takes time to change these patterns – you will need to practice
  • Assertiveness involves making choices, 2whenever you deal with another person, you always have choices”.
  • There may be a time where you chose not to be assertive this is Ok.
  • Being able to express your needs, choices and feelings in a way that does not threaten others
  • The right to ask what we want
  • The right to have an opinion
  • The right to choose if we get involved
  • The right to make mistakes
  • The right to change our mind
  • Using I language
  • The right to say no
  • Avoiding and making the other person feel guilty
  • When saying no, check your body language is saying the same

Thinking Assertiverly:

  • This is the art of thinking positively about our self’s and our lives
  • Negative thoughts lead to negative behavior
  • The challenging your negative thoughts and changing them in to a positive statement

Non Assertive behavior:

  • Having difficult standing up for your self
  • No taking responsibly for your self
  • Taking on the role of a victim and feeling sorry for your self
  • Words and phrases: perhaps, maybe, just only, never mind, i wonder if you could

Aggressive Behaviour:

  • Standing up for your right in such a way that the right of other people are taken away in the process
  • Making your self look good and putting down, teasing or humiliating other people
  • Words and phrases: your fault, you’d better, you are joking, you should, ought/must

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